Ep. 84: Why having him “wrapped around your finger” will destroy your love life

No woman will ever truly respect a man she has “wrapped around her finger,” or “eating from the palm of her hand…”

These expressions indicate a distorted power dynamic where one person – in this case, the woman – has a sense of control over and could easily manipulate the man she’s dating or in a relationship with. 

And most times, if we want control over something or someone, it’s usually because some part of us doesn’t feel safe, and is trying to engineer a sense of safety by having control. 

But creating this kind of dynamic doesn’t actually get us closer to the love, intimacy and connection we so deeply crave. 

So what does? 

In this episode, I share: 

  • Why having control over your man/in the dynamic actually costs you your sense of safety
  • The other costs of having “control” (hint: it costs you everything you actually want in love)
  • What action steps to take if you want to create a deeper sense of safety within, so it feels natural for you to open your heart to a man you respect and admire


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